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30 Minute DIY Barn Door Baby Gate

Happy Friday, friends!

Now that we have a little mover on our hands, we're quickly learning the importance of baby proofing. A mobile baby is NO JOKE. It's like these little ones were born with a radar for any and all danger, and they go right towards it every time. We were tired of blocking off the hallway to protect Sawyer from the stairs, so we decided to build a baby gate that fit in with our home decor a bit more than the plastic ones you find at your local Walmart.

This entire project start to finish took less than 30 minutes! I couldn't believe how quick it went, and it was super simple with basic cuts, a drill, and a little paint to pretty her up. And pretty she is :) (insert heart eyes emoji) I'm absolutely in LOVE with the way it turned out and I think it's a real show stopper now, rather than an unsightly plastic fence I would want to hide when company came over. I also like that its a bit of a permanent fixture in our home now, since we will be having  babies i'm sure for the next few years, we'll need the baby proofing for awhile!

To start, head to your local hardware store and pickup the following:

(2) 8 foot 1x6 boards
(6) 6 foot 1x4 boards
box of 2 inch wood screws
wood glue
wood filler
sand paper
mounting hardware
Gate closure

Tools required:
Wood Glue, Miter Saw, Hand Drill, Tape Measure

Start by measuring the width and height of the area you're blocking off, and cut 2 of your 1x6 boards to the size equal of the height, and 2 equal to the width. You're building a box frame for the gate.

Lay the wood together to create your box, ensuring all of the corners lay flush together. Seal with wood glue, and then use wood screws through the back so no screws show in the front of the gate.

Next, you need to cut the inside of the gate to size. Using your miter saw, cut the 1x4s to the size of your frame, and using wood screws, drill them into the frame. A tip- make sure you're leaving a little space in between boards for a more "farmhouse" look.

The "x" is the hardest part of the build, but it doesn't have to be perfect, that is what wood filler is for! Measure diagonally from corner to corner of the inside of your gate. On a 45 degree angle, cut your 1x4 to size. Use wood glue to secure it to the gate and screw into place from the back of the gate. To create the "x" you'll need to measure the distance on the opposite corner to corner and cut the ends at 45 degree angle like you did the first piece, and where it will meet the first diagonal, cut at a 40 degree angle. Don't stress if there is a bit of a gap. Fill in with wood filler, as well as any imperfections you'd like to correct in the wood, and let dry.

From here, I painted on 2 coats of eggshell white paint, lightly sanding between coats, and Jake screwed in the mounting hardware as well as the gate closure. Mount it on your wall, and admire your handy work!

Woodworking can seem intimidating when you first start, but there is nothing more satisfying than using scrap wood from your garage and putting together something wonderful and functional for your family! I should note that Jake has absolutely 0 handy experience that he hasn't just taught himself over time. As scary as it might seem, I promise, with a saw and some wood, you can make miracles happen!

Happy Building!

Until Next Time,

Guest Bathroom Update & Budget Check In

Hey, ya'll!

Happy Hump Day. Seriously, it was high-time for me to share what's been happening in our guest bath! I have been totally snap-happy with all of the progress, but haven't done much to update you over here on the blog since sharing the Mood board a few weeks back.

For real-time updates, be sure to follow along on snap @absolutelykylie but in the meantime, lets break it down!

We are so close to finished I can practically taste it! I seriously underestimated how much I would detest either walking up or down stairs to use the restroom. It's the only bathroom we have on the main floor of the house, so it's been a pain in the booty (literally. stairs make your rear sore) to have to go up and down a million times a day.

We have been lucky to face minimal issues along the way. Demo day went easy, we were a little bummed because we wanted to save the cabinetry to donate to Habitat for Humanity Restore, but they were literally glued onto the walls (wtf?) so we had to take a sledgehammer to them. Which was a little fun, I can't lie ;)

We ripped up tile and backer board, scraped popcorn ceiling, and patched and repaired walls, and finally it was time to get to work.

Our tile came in (which I love so much I could lick it! but I won't because its a bathroom floor, and ..gross) and Jake installed it all in a weekend. We painted with leftover paint from our Master Bedroom (Ben Moore Greystone) and last weekend we got started on installing the beadboard.

This was really our only issue of the project so far. We had planned to do board and batten with cheap hardboard, but the after spending an hour at Lowes we found out they did not have the thickness we would need and it would have to be special ordered. I really didn't want to special order something that would set us behind 2-3 weeks, so we changed the game plan and purchased some 1/4th inch thick breadboard instead. It is almost completely installed, and tonight we'll go ahead and slap on the trim pieces, fill and caulk, and hopefully get the toilet installed tomorrow! HOORAY FOR A PLACE TO PEE!

As for the budget, we've gone a little of course, I won't lie. Our original budget was $1000.00 for the entire room, which is pretty conservative when you figure we took that room down to the drywall. I did my best to find deals for most of our finishes and decor, but we did splurge a little in some areas because this is our forever house and the only remodel we can afford this year, so lets make it exactly how we want. As it stands this is where we're at:

Tile: 150
Tile Supplies (grout, quickset etc.): 100
Beadboard & Supplies: 130
Mirror: 90
Light Fixture: 180 (eek this was a major splurge but it's PERFECT!)
Sink: 90
Toilet: 200 (on sale!)
Faucet: 40

Total Spent So Far: $980.00

I already went decor shopping and fixture shopping and spent a bit there as well, but i'll save that for the reveal post. Don't forget to check Snap for real-time fixer upper action!

Until Next Time,

The Struggle Is So Real

Sometimes when I’m feeling particularly down it helps to write it out- isn’t that the whole purpose of a blog? Sort of like an online diary that you can share your feelings in?

I guess blogging has become a bit more of a “look at this cute outfit I had professional pictures taken of and my perfect kid who is hitting all of his milestones and my perfectly decorated house.”

I love that part of blogging, I really do, but today, I just need to get out some feelings.

Taken after my very first day back at work after maternity leave

I’m really riding the struggle bus lately. I was having lunch with one of my great working-mom friends the other day, and I just had to ask her, “will I ever stop wondering if being a working mom is the right choice?” But here is the thing, it really isn’t a choice. Mama stops working, the mortgage stops getting paid. So that means missing out on a lot of stuff that you really hate missing out on.

I don’t want to sound ungrateful. Jake and I have a situation far more fortunate than most. We both make great salaries at jobs that are very flexible to working parents. We live down the street from BOTH of our parents who care for our son during the week along with a nanny who loves him to death. We have help. It’s not like we’re struggling through this alone, but I gotta tell you, it’s not the late nights or early mornings that make being a working mom difficult, it’s all of the little things you don’t get to experience through the day.

My dad and I were chatting over gyros the other day and I broke down crying trying to explain to him how heartbreaking it is to me that every Sawyer smile that happens during the day isn’t a smile for me. And every time he learns something new, if we’re being honest, it wasn’t me who taught it to him. My mom texts me tons of pictures through the day, and as much as I love them, more times than not I have to run off to the bathroom to dab my tears because the feeling of missing out is so strong.

I struggle daily worrying that Sawyer will start to prefer his caretakers during the day to me. I worry that I am missing precious days and moments and years that I’m never going to get back and the anxiety it causes is downright awful. Honestly, Monday-Friday are just days we’re trying to survive. I wake up at 5:30 and go to bed around 11:30 and there isn’t a moment that isn’t go go go go in that 19 awake hours. Everyone tells you that children make the years fly by, and it’s exaggerated even moreso in this stage of life because we’re literally living for the weekend.

Lately I feel even worse because I have such a deep-seeded jealousy for my stay at home mama friends, that I am starting to feel like I can’t relate to them in the slightest. This isn’t to say that I don’t think being a stay at home mom is hard, I know that struggle is just as real! It’s just a struggle so very different from a working mother. When I hear fellow bloggers snapchatting about how busy their day is going to be going to the park and music class and waking up at 9:00 with the baby, I have to practice slow-breathing to keep from completely losing my shit ;)

I’d love to tell you that my job is so fulfilling and I’m being a super-mom feminist by having a career and raising our baby at the same time, but the truth of the matter is, my job helps to pay our mortgage and allows us a bit of financial freedom, but nothing fills up my tank like hours spent with my son.

There are some perks to being a working mom, I’ll say that for sure. I eat breakfast and lunch in peace 5 days a week. With a fork, and it’s warm too. Sometimes, I treat myself to a middle-of-the-week pedicure, and now and again I get to go  to homegoods and browse for an hour in between meetings. It’s not a bad gig, ya’ll. I recognize that. But in a world where it takes so little to be considered a shitty mom, it’s easy to get down on yourself and down on your life decisions when you see such a picture-perfect morning of cuddles on the couch and walks around the neighborhood on Instagram, while you’re staring at a computer screen and your kid is having fun with someone who isn’t you.

To my stay at home mom friends, I know you have more struggles than I can even begin to understand. I completely, completely  get that the grass is always greener. Please know that I think you’re amazing for doing what you do and in no way do I believe the hardships of being a working mother outweigh the hardships of staying home. I just don’t know what it’s like to stay home full-time so they’re hardships I can’t speak to.

To my working mom friends, please just know, you aren’t alone. Know that Instagram is a highlight reel and no one is quite as happy as they like to pretend they are. You’re good enough, you’re an amazing mom, and your baby will always love you most. Repeat this to yourself daily if you have to, even if it starts to sound like you're trying to convince yourself more than anything ;)

Hang in there, mamas. No matter which side of the fence you stand on, raising tiny humans is hard work. The day you bring a child into this world it leaves an open wound in your heart so huge and raw that sometimes you feel like you might just die from all of the love you feel, and we’re all just doing our very best.

Thanks for reading my long-winded rant, I feel better already.  Happy Monday!

Until Next Time,